One minute, you're plugging along at work or home or even your hobby, doing your thing, happily going about your business, then all the sudden, these feelings start creeping in that make you second guess your every move.
Are you...sure that's a good idea?
Geez, that seems risky.
What will people think of you when they see that?
Are you sure you know what you're doing?
Hey, that conversation you just had? That last thing you said? Well you thought it was fine, but I'm not so sure...
Where does that little voice come from? How is it that you can be fine, confident in yourself, and then suddenly, debilitated by a tiny voice in your head? One little doubt leads to another, then another and suddenly, you are straight up buried in an avalanche of negative thoughts.
Buried. |
I was struck by doubt today.
I was on Pinterest, reading some articles about writing, checking out some tips for bloggers. Trying to decide what I wanted to write about next. Just casually browsing and thinking. Then all the sudden, there it was.
It started small: Man, no one really read your last blog post.
Well that's because I posted it right before the Royals game! I'll re-share it later, I worked hard on it and I'd like to know what people think.
But did you realize, you've had fewer views on each subsequent post? Maybe you're just boring.
No, I'm pretty sure I just need to keep writing! I took a break for a bit, so that's why. Had some bad timing. Nothing to worry about.
Are you sure about that? Are you sure you're not wasting your time with this writing thing? Maybe you should give it a rest.
I'm doing okay. I think. Man, I don't know...
It takes just one little doubt, one instance of second-guessing, and before you know it, the floodgates are opened and the doubts are rolling in.
It didn't take long for me to go from feeling confident and excited about my writing to feeling that maybe I was just wasting my time and needed to quit. And that's just crazy. Of course I'm going to have ups and downs, highs and lows. I'm on a journey here! Not everything is going to go perfectly. But I'll never know what I'm capable of if I give up before I even really get started.
So today I'm telling you: When the doubts start creeping in, don't listen. I'm not sure exactly where that little voice in your head comes from. Maybe it's from you, maybe it's from someone in your life who has criticized you in the past, maybe it's based on a past experience and actually has some truth to it.
Whatever it is, shut it down before it poisons you. Don't second guess yourself. Don't let fear paralyze you.
Break free.
Doing great things requires risk. And yeah, you'll fail sometimes. Not everything you do is going to be amazing and perfect in every way. But if you give up, if you let fear paralyze you, you'll never know what could have been.
Get up, shake off those doubts, and go on your way.
You are made to do great things.
Don't let some punk voice in your head tell you otherwise.
Break free! |
Keep doing what you love. You are a great writer and people will read your work. And even if they don't, keep at it. Write because you enjoy it and it is important to you.
ReplyDeleteIf only that was so easy! I always try to hush and shush that little voice, but it`s like pouring oil into flames. Then I become anxious and feel paralysed by my own incompetence. And that`s the end for you, Sidney :(
ReplyDeleteBut sometimes all that hushing and shushing helps
It is hard, isn't it? Sometimes it helps me if I sit down and think about why I'm feeling doubtful, where the root of my feelings is. Other times, I remove myself completely from the situation and do something relaxing,like watching a funny TV show until I'm feeling more peaceful. Here's to staying positive in the face of doubt!
Deleteoh yeah, sometimes i hate the voice that decides what to do or what not to do... because of this sometimes i lose motivations so everything. Sometimes we have to fight with this little voice and be the one who decides... but its not that easy.. You can visit my blog if you want and get some time, choose your language and check the notes :) http://blueskyylar.blogspot.com TAKE CARE !
ReplyDeleteIt can be hard to stay motivated for sure! Glad I'm not the only one who struggles with it. I'll check your blog out!
DeleteIf at first you don't succeed dust yourself off and try again! I totally get what your going through. What I learned and worked for me is to take some time to relax, things will come to you naturally. Your a great writer so keep at it if this is what makes you happy. Best of luck!!!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Michelle! You are right, sometimes a break is needed to gain some perspective and to remember why we're doing this!
DeleteDoubts are always there. Always! I feel I am not doing well. I need to improve my blog. No one is reading my posts but then I think I am working hard & I decide to punch the punk voice.
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Punch away! You are doing a great job- keep up the good work!
DeleteYour post is really nice! Keep it going!
ReplyDeleteThanks Edya! I am going to do my best not to give up!
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